Selling yourself short.
If there’s one thing I enjoy about negative self-talk, it’s proving it wrong.
I have yet to meet a person who hasn’t had a negative conversation going in their head at some stage or another. We humans do this to ourselves, perhaps a little more often than we realise. It’s our self-belief, or, to be more accurate, a lack thereof. When you allow that to have the upper hand over your mindset, you’re selling yourself short.
And there’s plenty of situations that can summon our doubt-filled inner voice to shout loudly above all others. The damn thing’s a right pain in the butt with a really crap sense of timing. Just when we need that extra dose of courage, that spark of inner brightness, that surge of ability to push forth, our internalised voice of negativity always starts talking.
Is there a way to avoid selling yourself short? Yes. Is it easy? No. Are we likely to suffer at the altar of unrealised hopes, dreams, and achievements because we gave in to the damn thing? Yes. But as we all know, there are thousands of examples of what can happen when people tell their self-doubt at which stop on the ride it can get the hell off.
Fact; the more you doubt our own ability, the less you’ll use it. The less you use it, the more you’re selling yourself short.
Throughout all the interaction I’ve had with people over the years, I learned of at least three common topics that are capable of leading you into selling yourself short.
Life, changes, upheavals, relocations, jobs, roles, relationships, travel, going, stopping, breathing, not breathing. SO MUCH SCAREY STUFF! And whenever we have to ponder a major life decision, that fear ramps up accordingly. My suggestion to avoid selling yourself short in times like these, lies within this quote.
“Courage is knowing you’re afraid, and doing it anyway”
Fear of the unknown, what ifs, uncertainty, missing pieces. Self-doubt is a thing I say we cannot avoid. But is anything in your life really worth the cost of selling yourself short before you’ve even had a crack at it?
“Doubt is an opportunity to discover something, by doing something”
What will they think, what if I fail, will they like it, what if I’m laughed at, what if I’m no good? We humans judge, it’s in our nature. Yet we also have the ability to ignore the judgements of others. Ego plays a big part, sure. But why not judge the results of an action, instead of an idea?
“Often those that criticise and judge others, reveal what they lack in themselves”
In this world, there are a handful of celebrities that I look up to. All of them have self-doubt within them. Yet all of them proved their inner voice of negativity to be wrong. They chose to believe more in their ability to do their thing, than they did in the voice that was trying to tell them they shouldn’t. Their example to me is, when you cut through all the crap our negative self-talk generates, there’s nothing left to stop us moving forward. Selling yourself short is no longer an option.
But you don’t have to be a celebrity. I meet people all the time who do some pretty amazing things in their life. And I’ll wager a dollar that says you know some of those people too. And how about another dollar that says, deep inside, you can think of a few occasions where your negative self-talk had you selling yourself short, just as you stood at the edge of an opportunity. My question there is, if that did happen, when are you going to give it another go? When can you try again? This is life and it’s worth a crack, no matter what your fears or doubts or judgements might want you to believe.
Go ahead, have ability. Prove yourself wrong. Because you don’t need to prove anything to anybody else.