Our biggest problems
Our biggest problems arise when we over-think and complicate our problems. Therefore, the solution to our problems, must be simple.
I’m a simple person, who enjoys a simple life, doing simple things. Whilst that might be leaving myself wide open to several interpretations, I’d like to point out that, sometimes, I thoroughly enjoy NOT being the brightest bulb in the chandelier. I love simple because, I’m an overthinker.
And I’m not alone, there’s plenty of overthinkers out there. I’ve met you! We also agree that we’ll often identify our biggest problem is our mental efforts to dissect and resolve our biggest problems. We create a wheel of irony, and watch it begin to spin. But how many of us take the time to acknowledge what’s underneath, driving that wheel?
Slight deviation for a moment. I’m about to embark upon a simple path. You might be inclined to dismiss it, or switch off. Please don’t. It’s often said that, in our modern world, the hardest things to create are the simplest of things. And many of us will not even try. But those who do, are reminded that the simplest things are quite often the best.
Gang Of Three.
There’s three distinct negatives which impact upon us in ways we’d prefer they didn’t. Combined, these three begin to create our biggest problems. They are stress, overwhelm, and confusion. This gang of three is a natural part of everyday life, we accept that, to a point. When we reach that point, we start overthinking, and that’s when we open the door to the second gang of three. Self-doubt, fear, and inaction.
The arrival of that second gang, starts the irony wheel spinning, creating our biggest problems. Many of us begin walking down that overthinking path, complicating anything and everything. Myself included.
But one of the more surprising things about slowing that spinning wheel, is how simple it is to do. Equally surprising to my clients, are the positive results simple solutions have upon their biggest problems. So why do we avoid doing what’s simple? I haven’t a clue. Figure that out and I reckon you could create peace in the Middle East.
What I do know is, every time I combat that first gang of three, my biggest problems melt away right before my overthinking mind. And the methods I use to fight back against stress, overwhelm, and confusion? They’re simple. I use their opposites. Allow me to expand.
Our biggest problems don’t start with stress, that’s a natural part of being human. It’s how we react to stress that matters. Too much stress is a red-light moment, and red means stop. Stop everything you’re doing, remove yourself from what’s happening, encourage those around you to halt with what they’re creating. Stress robs us of time. Stop and take time back. Use that time to see what’s happening around you or to you.
Again, not the start of our biggest problems, but close. Most of you know what it’s like to feel overwhelmed, some more than others. I combat overwhelm by forcefully simplifying whatever it is I’m being bombarded with. I take back control from those barking orders at me. I force explanations from those who are overcomplicating a situation. I demand that everything be filtered and simplified to a point where it’s easier to understand what’s required. Overwhelm = out of control. Take control back.
The irony wheel starts spinning here, which creates our biggest problems. Why now? Because we did not apply ourselves well to the first two points. We’ve arrived at a state of confusion by glossing over the stress and overwhelm. Confusion exists thanks to a lack of clarity around what’s going on. Time to retrace our steps back to point one. Stop the stress. Take back control from overwhelm. Insist on doing nothing until clarity is achieved. Until we understand, we can’t move forward. Don’t allow yourself to feel you’re forced to.
Remember that second gang of three? Self-doubt, fear, inaction? Put into practise the three methods above, and that 2nd gang takes care of itself. The wheel of irony cannot spin, nor can we become trapped in our overthinking, creating our biggest problems.
A Simple Choice.
Of course feel free to reject my simplicity, particularly those of you who share my overthinking talents. Honestly, I get what you might be surmising. It’s ridiculous to think that something so simple could help you resolve complicated situations. But let me ask you this, is it because you don’t believe in simple things? Or because deep down you know you’re overthinking your situation?